“The way we were treated as small children is the way we treat ourselves the rest of our life”
From the book “For Your Own Good” by Alice Miller
This is so true. I couldn’t say this any better. We are not consciously choosing to treat ourselves the way we do… we could be loving and kind to ourselves or say/do things that are hurtful. Why do we keep doing what we know is painful? The insight to this issue is the beginning of change…
In Anne Wilson Schaef’s book, “Escape From Intimacy”, she writes:
“In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are. What is important to us and what we want. If we don’t know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with other person.”
This so important to be aware of. Intimacy is a natural connection between people. The question is why do we struggle so much with a natural connection? We need to be accountable for our own struggles. That’s why it is important to learn about ourselves and where our struggle comes from. This is a concern that is commonly brought to me with most clients.
There is always hope…